ADHD in Women: Why It’s Often Missed

Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) has historically been associated with hyperactive young boys. As a result, many girls and women grow up without recognition or understanding of their experiences. Instead, they are often seen as anxious, disorganised, overly sensitive, or simply “not trying hard enough.”

Increasingly, women are seeking answers later in life after years of feeling overwhelmed, misunderstood, or exhausted by the effort required to keep up with daily demands.

Why ADHD Often Goes Unrecognised in Women

ADHD can present differently in females than in males. Rather than overt hyperactivity, many girls and women develop internalised coping strategies that mask their difficulties.

Common patterns include:

• appearing attentive while internally struggling to focus

• perfectionism and overcompensating to avoid mistakes

• intense emotional sensitivity

• chronic overwhelm and mental fatigue

• difficulties with organisation and time management

• feeling “different” but unsure why

Because these experiences are less disruptive in classroom or workplace settings, they are frequently overlooked.

Common Signs of ADHD in Women

Many women seek therapy after years of managing challenges on their own. Some signs that may prompt further exploration include:

• difficulty starting or finishing tasks

• feeling constantly overwhelmed by daily responsibilities

• chronic procrastination despite strong intentions

• emotional overwhelm or difficulty regulating feelings

• forgetfulness and losing track of important details

• burnout from trying to keep everything together

• sensitivity to criticism or perceived rejection

• cycles of motivation followed by exhaustion

These experiences are often mistaken for anxiety, stress, or personality traits rather than recognised as part of a neurodevelopmental profile.

The Emotional Impact of Late Recognition

Living without understanding why things feel harder can affect self-confidence and identity.

Many women describe:

• feeling lazy or inadequate despite working hard

• shame around disorganisation or forgetfulness

• exhaustion from masking struggles

• difficulty trusting their own capacity

• burnout from years of overcompensating

Recognition can bring relief, clarity, and a new framework for self-understanding.

How Therapy Can Help

Therapy provides a space to better understand how ADHD influences daily life and emotional experiences.

This may include:

• understanding attention, motivation, and executive functioning

• developing practical strategies for organisation and task management

• strengthening emotional regulation skills

• reducing overwhelm and burnout

• building self-compassion and realistic expectations

• exploring identity and self-understanding

A neuro-affirming approach recognises differences in attention and processing as part of human diversity, while addressing the environmental and emotional factors that contribute to stress.

When an Assessment May Be Helpful

Some women choose to pursue a formal ADHD assessment to gain clarity and inform future planning. An assessment can provide structured insight into attention, executive functioning, and cognitive patterns.

Others may choose to focus on therapeutic strategies without seeking formal assessment.

You Are Not Alone

Many women discover ADHD later in life. With understanding and the right strategies, it is possible to reduce overwhelm, build sustainable routines, and approach life with greater clarity and self-acceptance.

If you’re wondering whether ADHD may be part of your experience, speaking with a clinician can be a helpful first step.